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How many times I’ve heard, “Laurie, you can’t do ALL of that.” In 2009, I received a 6-month Rotary scholarship to study Spanish in Panama; I also got accepted into a PhD program in Health Education. I was told I needed to “pick one” because the dates overlapped, and I wouldn’t be able to do them both. But I wanted them both. So I CHOSE THEM BOTH. Instead of spending 6 months in Panama, I was granted permission to spend 3 months there instead so that I could begin my PhD program in the Fall. So yes….I was able to do them both….in a slightly different way….but I did them both. (And then I became a PhD dropout later on because….well….that’s an entirely different story that led me to an even deeper heart’s desire….but you get the point.)



In 2005, I had an invitation to travel back to Africa to work with children in Zambia. I had visited Kenya in 2000 and worked with orphaned children there, and I REALLY wanted to return to Africa to work with them again….it was MY HEART’S DESIRE. But finances stopped me from going. I was working 2 jobs at the time while putting myself through grad school making barely enough to pay my monthly bills. My heart felt so let down.


In 2006, I received a second invitation to travel to Zambia to work with orphaned children. I was in the same financial situation. But I DECIDED I was going to go….some way….some how. I identified the barrier (finances) and thought of solutions. I did something that my co-workers deemed “pretty bold”….and ”I can’t believe you had the audacity to ask that!”….I wrote a letter to my landlord and asked if he’d waive my rent for the month that I’d be volunteering in Zambia. I thought, “The worst he can do is say ‘no’”. People around me thought that was “too much to ask”. Turns out my landlord was a philanthropist and was eager to support me in my heart’s desire to work with children in Zambia. He effortlessly waived my rent that month with glee, and I fundraised all of the remaining funds required to cover my travel expenses.


In 2007, I returned to Zambia again to volunteer…..because why?…..because it was my heart’s desire. And my fundraising story for that trip is incredible!….I’ll save it for another time.


Fast forward another decade….I wanted to start my own business. Nobody in my family had ever done that before. I was “clueless” on where to begin. But I had a HUGE heart’s desire to help people heal emotions holistically, and I wanted the freedom to run my practice in a way that aligned with MY core values, not someone else’s. I found a beautiful office in Benicia, California and signed the lease agreement. I went to the county to register my business name, and then was told I need to do “this” and “that” and “register here” and “do this next”. I didn’t have it all figured out from the start….BUT I knew in my heart I was to start my business. Things unfolded, and here I am a decade later; I am STILL figuring things out in my business, but I love that about being an entrepreneur….it’s like a spiritual journey of deeper and deeper discovery.


There are going to be plenty of nay-sayers telling you to “be realistic”. Be careful with whom you share your heart’s desires. My personal opinion?? I believe your heart’s desires are there FOR A REASON….WITH PURPOSE. They are the magnetic forces that are pulling you to step into the unknown....into your purpose where your deepest heart’s desires reside. What I’ve found is that as scary as that may be, there is ALWAYS something or someone there to support you, your dream, your vision, your heart’s desires.



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In today's fast-paced world, high-stress professionals often find themselves on a relentless treadmill, juggling demanding careers and personal lives. The constant pressure can take a toll on their mental and emotional well-being, including quality of sleep, leading to stress, burnout, and a sense of being overwhelmed. Fortunately, there's a powerful holistic approach that can help: Brainspotting.



What is Brainspotting?

Brainspotting is a therapeutic technique that delves deep into the mind-body connection to facilitate emotional healing and relief from stress. Developed by Dr. David Grand, it's based on the understanding that our physical and emotional experiences are closely intertwined, and traumatic events can get stored in our bodies, leading to emotional distress.


How Does Brainspotting Work?

At its core, Brainspotting involves a therapist guiding the client's attention to specific eye positions (brainspots) that correspond to the emotional or physical distress they're experiencing. These brainspots are associated with unresolved issues or traumas.

By focusing on these brainspots and allowing the body to process its stored emotions, clients can release pent-up stress and find profound and lasting emotional relief. Brainspotting provides a safe and supportive space for high-stress professionals to explore their feelings, discover insights, and foster emotional healing. Virtual sessions are just as effective as in-office sessions, so one can experience the great benefits without the hassle of driving to and from a practitioner's office.


The Benefits of Brainspotting for High-Stress Professionals:

1. Stress Reduction:

High-stress professionals often carry the weight of constant deadlines, long work hours, and high expectations. This unrelenting pressure can lead to chronic stress, impacting their physical and mental health. Brainspotting offers a unique approach to stress reduction by helping individuals identify and process the root causes of their stress.


By working with a Brainspotting therapist, high-stress professionals can explore their stress triggers and emotional responses in a safe and supportive environment. This process enables them to release stored tension, address unresolved issues, and develop healthier coping strategies. As a result, they experience significant reductions in their stress levels, leading to improved overall well-being.


2. Burnout Prevention:

Burnout is a common concern for high-stress professionals. The relentless demands of their careers can leave them emotionally drained and fatigued. Brainspotting can be a valuable tool for burnout prevention. It allows individuals to recognize early signs of burnout and take proactive steps to address them.


Through Brainspotting sessions, high-stress professionals can gain insight into their emotional states and learn to manage stressors effectively. By addressing emotional exhaustion and identifying sources of overwhelm, they can build resilience and develop strategies to prevent burnout before it takes hold.


3. Emotional Resilience:

Emotional resilience is a key attribute for high-stress professionals. It empowers them to face challenges with confidence and adaptability. Brainspotting helps individuals strengthen their emotional resilience by addressing past traumas and unresolved emotions that may be hindering their ability to cope with stress.


Through Brainspotting, high-stress professionals can develop healthier emotional responses to stressors, enabling them to bounce back more quickly from setbacks. They gain the tools to navigate high-pressure situations with greater composure, ensuring their emotional well-being remains intact.


4. Improved Focus:

Maintaining focus and mental clarity in a high-stress environment is essential for success. Stress and emotional turmoil can disrupt concentration and hinder productivity. Brainspotting can enhance focus by helping individuals clear emotional blockages that may be clouding their thoughts.


As high-stress professionals engage in Brainspotting sessions, they often experience improved mental clarity and concentration. By addressing emotional burdens and finding emotional relief, they can bring their full cognitive resources to their work, leading to more effective decision-making and problem-solving.


These additional insights highlight how Brainspotting offers a comprehensive approach to stress reduction and emotional well-being for high-stress professionals, addressing their unique challenges and empowering them to lead healthier, more balanced lives.


The Holistic Approach:

What sets Brainspotting apart is its holistic nature. It acknowledges that the mind and body are interconnected, and emotional well-being is essential for overall health. It works on the sub-cortical part of the brain (deeper brain), which very often makes it much more effective than traditional methods such as talk therapy. High-stress professionals who incorporate Brainspotting into their self-care routines can experience a profound shift in their emotional well-being.


Finding a Brainspotting Therapist:

If you're a high-stress professional seeking relief from stress and burnout through Brainspotting, it's crucial to find a qualified therapist experienced in this technique. Look for trained therapists here or book a consultation call with Laurie, a trained professional Brainspotting therapist and healer who provides virtual sessions globally.


In Conclusion:

High-stress professionals don't have to accept stress and burnout as inevitable parts of their lives. Brainspotting offers a holistic approach to emotional well-being, helping individuals manage stress, prevent burnout, and rediscover their inner balance. By tapping into the mind-body connection, Brainspotting empowers high-stress professionals to lead healthier, more fulfilling lives both at work and in their personal endeavors. Consider exploring this transformative therapy to unlock your emotional wellness potential.

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Are you still beating yourself up for something you said or did years ago??

Forgiveness is an essential aspect of human relationships. It is the act of releasing someone from the responsibility or blame for an offense or mistake. Forgiving someone else can be difficult, but forgiving oneself can be even more challenging. Self-forgiveness is the act of accepting and forgiving oneself for mistakes and shortcomings. It is an essential component of self-care and personal growth.


The Importance of Self-Forgiveness

Self-forgiveness is an indispensable aspect of mental health and well-being. When we hold onto guilt, shame, and self-blame, it can lead to difficult emotions such as anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem. These feelings can negatively impact our daily lives. Self-forgiveness can help to alleviate these feelings and improve our emotional well-being.

Self-forgiveness also allows us to learn from our mistakes and move forward. It is important to acknowledge our mistakes, take responsibility for our actions, and learn from them. When we forgive ourselves, we can let go of the past and focus on the present and future. We can make positive changes in our lives and avoid making the same mistakes again.

Forgiving oneself can also improve our relationships with others. When we hold onto self-blame and guilt, it can impact our interactions with others. We may become defensive or guarded, leading to strained relationships. When we forgive ourselves, we can let go of these negative feelings and be more open and accepting of others.


How Forgiveness Impacts Your Physical Health

In addition to the positive impacts on mental health, forgiveness has also been found to have physical health benefits. Chronic stress, which can result from holding onto anger, resentment, and grudges, has been linked to a range of health problems, including heart disease, high blood pressure, and weakened immune function. Forgiveness, on the other hand, can reduce stress and promote physical health.

Research has shown that forgiveness can lead to a reduction in blood pressure, heart rate, and muscle tension, as well as an improvement in immune function. For example, a study published in the Journal of Behavioral Medicine found that forgiveness was associated with lower levels of stress hormones, including cortisol, which can have negative effects on physical health.

Another study published in the Journal of Health Psychology found that forgiveness was associated with better immune function. Participants who reported higher levels of forgiveness had stronger immune responses to a vaccination than those who reported lower levels of forgiveness.

The impact of forgiveness on physical health may also extend to the cardiovascular system. A study published in the Journal of Psychosomatic Research found that forgiveness was associated with a reduction in cardiovascular risk factors, including blood pressure and cholesterol levels.


How to Practice Self-Forgiveness

Self-forgiveness is a process that takes time and practice. Here are some steps to help you practice self-forgiveness:

  1. Acknowledge and take responsibility for your actions: It is important to acknowledge your mistakes and take responsibility for your actions.

  2. Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding. Remember that everyone makes mistakes, and it is okay to forgive yourself. How would you talk to a good friend or family member who is working on self-forgiveness?? Share that same attitude, empathy, and compassion towards yourself.

  3. Reflect on what you have learned: Think about what you have learned from your mistakes and how you can use this knowledge to make positive changes in your life.

  4. Let go of the past: Focus on the present and future. Let go of the past and the difficult emotions associated with it.

  5. Practice self-care: Take care of yourself physically and emotionally. Exercise, eat healthy, get enough sleep, and practice relaxation techniques such as meditation or yoga.

Conclusion

Self-forgiveness is an essential aspect of mental health and well-being. It allows us to let go of difficult emotions, learn from our mistakes, and move forward. By practicing self-compassion and letting go of the past, we can improve our relationships with ourselves and others. Overall, the research suggests that forgiveness can have positive impacts on both mental and physical health. By reducing stress and promoting immune and cardiovascular health, forgiveness can lead to a longer and healthier life. Remember that self-forgiveness is a process that takes time and practice. Be patient and kind to yourself, and you will see the benefits of self-forgiveness in your life.



Sources:

  1. Graham, J. R., & Vollhardt, J. R. (2016). The health benefits of forgiving. Current Opinion in Psychology, 10, 105-109.

  2. Reed, G. L., Enright, R. D., & McNulty, Y. (2014). Growing healthy through forgiveness: An intervention to promote cardiovascular health. Journal of Psychosomatic Research, 76(2), 154-160.

  3. Toussaint, L., Shields, G. S., Dorn, G., & Slavich, G. M. (2016). Effects of lifetime stress exposure on mental and physical health in young adulthood: How stress degrades and forgiveness protects health. Journal of Health Psychology, 21(6), 1004-1014.

  4. Witvliet, C. V. O., Ludwig, T. E., & Vander Laan, K. L. (2001). Granting forgiveness or harboring grudges: Implications for emotion, physiology, and health. Psychological Science, 12(2), 117-123.

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